Do You Think Your Life Story Matters?

Too many of us think that the destiny we have created through luck, accident and choice, is not a story worthy of being celebrated and written for someone else to read.

Yet, when you think about the people in your life who are no longer alive to share their story with you, don’t you wish that they had taken the time to share more about their feelings, thoughts and perspectives?

This year, I would like to suggest that you take the time to write your destiny, maybe a little book at a time.

Make it easier for your significant others, children, family and friends by contemplating your life in a bigger way than you maybe have ever allowed yourself to do before.

You may have read about Swedish death cleaning, where men and women in Sweden during their middle age clean out their homes so that they don’t leave junk behind for their family to have to handle when they die.  

A Celebrate Your Life project is another idea to consider as you grow older.  Have you shared your wisdom, your perspective, and your love with the people that matter most to you?  There are many people who would love to know more about your challenges, your joys, triumphs and what you learned from failure.

My suggestion is that you write a short 40 to 50 page “book” with photos, drawings, sayings, and the story of your life highlighted in an easy to read format.

I’ll be sharing more about an easy way to do this in January.  

As we close out another year, a tumultuous for many of us, give yourself some time to think about your life story.  If you had to summarize your life experience in a few pages, what are your big themes?  Who are the people that made your life worth living?  

When you think about it, your life has been incredible, and maybe it’s time to write your destiny for others to appreciate.

Writing Your Destiny

Mom and kids in Paris
Mom and kids in Paris

Back in 1992, I quit a safe job working at IBM as a systems engineer and thought it would be easy to make a shift into more fulfilling work.  I found it wasn’t quite as easy as I expected. I was confused, lacked confidence in my abilities, and didn’t know how to make a big leap in my life.

It was at that time, that I learned how to write my destiny. I began an experiment, inspired by some books and articles that I was reading at the time, which centered around the question:

Can writing expand my destiny into something better?

I was both interested in writing as a career, and in improving all the other areas of my life.  In many ways, my life felt like I was stuck at the bottom of a very deep well.

The pictures accompanying this post would have been hard for me to imagine when I first began to work with writing.  I couldn’t have imagined traveling around the world and country with two sons and my mom, or living the life I currently enjoy.  One of the benefits of writing your destiny is that you begin to have a greater understanding of the forces and desires shaping your destiny.

For me, many of the best aspects of my life came about because of my writing practice.  Having adventures with my wonderful family,  enjoying peace and prosperity and the ability to live my life as an unconventional adventure began from writing your destiny practices.  I wholeheartedly believe they can help you too.

There is no precise time table for big leaps in life. Sometimes, we set goals that take years and decades to move into our life.  At other times, change can happen quickly.

My first big leaps using writing as a tool for change, took a while to create.  The more I trusted writing tools and practices, the more I was able to make substantial shifts in my life. Within months of writing something I currently call a destiny scene, I began work as a professional writer — first a technical writer then a marketing writer.  Since that time, a daily writing practice has become an important part of the way that I shape my destiny.

Having a writing practice isn’t just for writers.

Writing practices have helped me to travel the country and the world with my family, even during tough financial times!

You can find many self-help books that work with writing as a tool for growth.  It’s certainly not the only way to live into an expanded destiny, but it can help.

Back in 2011, I created a Writing Your Destiny book to share what I have learned in both my own experience and the experiences of people that I have served in both business and personal coaching.

I will be offering a one day virtual Writing Your Destiny Workshop for the first time on December 12, 2015.

In preparation for that workshop, I will be sharing the ten steps for Writing Your Destiny in the next few months in this blog.

  1. I can’t promise you that you will become rich and famous using these practices.  However, I do trust these processes can help bring the best your life has to offer to you in surprising ways.

Whether or not you would care to join the online course later this year, I am offering ideas that might help you to:

  1. Develop a vision for your future that guides you forward.
  2. Give you greater strength to live your destiny.
  3. Understand why your life’s journey may be different than the American dream that many of us were taught to follow.
  4. Express your deepest values, passions and dreams more fully every day.
  5. Assist you in organizing and writing a memoir of your life’s experiences.

There are many ways to shape your destiny, and I am hoping that you will find something useful for your life’s journey in this new series.

If you want to make some big leaps in your life, and haven’t quite found the way to move into an expanded destiny, some of these ideas, practices and tools may be just what you need.

Looking forward to hearing your comments and feedback as I share the ideas of Writing Your Destiny with you between now and the end of the year!

Writer of Destiny: Pierre Teilhard De Chardin

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, a philosopher who ...
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, a philosopher who trained as a paleontologist and geologist (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“There is but one possible way in which human elements, innumerably diverse by nature, can love one another:  it is by knowing themselves all to be centered upon a single “super centre” common to all, to which they can only attain, each at the extreme of himself, through their unity.”

Pierre Teilhard De Chardin

Last week, I shared my perspective about the challenge between staying true to our own nature and finding a way towards positive collective behavior.

As I continue to focus on novel-writing this week, I’m keeping the blogs shorter this week, and adding a new feature — Writers of Destiny.

Thought you might enjoy quotes from great thinkers, artists and poets who have provided us clues on how to maintaining our individual uniqueness while we strive for unity.

Hope you are inspired by these great men and women from across different times, places, and cultures who have much to teach us about creating an enlightened destiny through their writings.

Perhaps, you are one of the inspirational voices for future generations!  Keep writing!

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