The Chaos of Big Transformations

Chaos theory

Chaos theory (Photo credit: anroir)

In the last twenty years, we all have become an expert at making rapid transformations in our lives and business.  Sometimes, we are made to feel less than if we don’t create big transformations quickly.  In the past, I have found myself doing work where I lead major transformational projects and have been considered a change agent, so I have some idea on how to get things done.

In my experience, no matter how much you plan a big transformation, there is always a part of it that is chaotic, especially if you are trying to do something more quickly than usual.  Of course, this makes sense, because if we were following standard protocol, we would take the normal amount of time and effort to do something.

I can’t say that the move to a new location for my family and business is particularly aggressive in it scheduling.  Yet, after 14 years of living in our home,  it’s hard to not have a chaotic element to what we are doing.  Right now, I’m taking a break from packing and getting the new house set and taking the time to check in here.

Have you ever had a big transformation where everything went smoothly without chaos?

The biggest transformations in my life always had times of chaos in the middle of them, whether they were personal or professional.  With the most important transformations, everything changes for the better after the chaos.

I can already see a new enchanted oasis emerging for my family.  My mother was awe-struck this morning with how lovely our backyard garden looks.  In our best transformations, after the dust settles we end up “living” in a better new place and way of life.

You may not be literally moving to a new home, but so many of us are moving through big transformations and dealing with the ensuing chaotic moments.  This is an important time to remember to remain aware of how we are showing up.  In chaotic times we need both rest and awareness to remain calm.

Daily Contemplation:

What is the smoothest big transformation that you’ve ever had in your life?

When you were exhausted and tired from a change that you are experiencing, and you know the chaos must continue for a bit longer, how did you stay kind to yourself and others?

9 thoughts on “The Chaos of Big Transformations

  1. Three Well Beings says:

    I love reading about your transformation! You have a calmness about you that still comes through, despite the notion that it has to be chaotic. I was raised in a home where my very, very orderly mom reacted to change like it was approaching illness. So I have fought against my nature to default to similar responses most of my adult life. I may on the outisde look like I’m handling change well, but I really struggle. I so appreciate the way you are sharing your life at this time. It definitely speaks to me! Debra

    • Karen Wan says:

      Thank you Debra. I’m not so sure that I’ve been as calm as I would have liked in the last few days as we moved to a new home, but the worst of the move is over and I’m feeling very grateful for our move, and reading your kind words this evening. Many blessings, Karen.

  2. Kara Peterson says:

    Nice post! Congrats on creating a new environment that sounds very peaceful. After living in NYC for so long I start to long for a peaceful backyard sometimes. Good reminder for me, whether it is a physical or spiritual or another type of transformation… some chaos will be there. Stay Calm and move forward. 🙂

    • Karen Wan says:

      City life has its peaceful spots, but they’re definitely different. I lived in Chicago for many years and loved the energy of a big city. I probably wouldn’t have moved away if it weren’t for my ex-husband. Someday I may live in the city again, but for now my life is full of soccer games, gardens and a quieter life. I’m lucky to experience the adventure of city life through reading your blogs. Thanks for your comment! 🙂

  3. AmazinglyBrash says:

    The biggest transformation has always been leaving or losing a romantic relationship. When you been dedicated to one person for a long period of time, being alone brings the chaos of adapting to the single life. You don’t know whether to move forward to another or stay still and continue to work towards to old. I remember being in my own planet think of ways to get back to earth. Indulging myself in everything but the moving on process. I realized I was distancing myself from human contact and I remember my friends and family are in place to sew my wound so I can heal properly. So, I leaned on them when I got too tired to stand up on my own. The chaos lasted much longer but it’s my love for those I love that got me through.

    • Karen Wan says:

      You have a good point. Some of the more chaotic times in my life were at times when an important relationship, often a romantic one, fell apart. Like you say, we often need other people that we love to help us through those kind of tough times. Moving forward from a romantic loss is the biggest transformation that many people experience in their whole life, which is probably why love stories are so popular! 🙂 Thanks so much for your comment!

  4. yogaleigh says:

    I think transformations like moving or changing jobs have always had some element of chaos (or was that panic?) in them but I wonder if that has to be there or whether my fears keep me from flowing smoothly from one situation or place to another…

    • Karen Wan says:

      It seems to me that it’s a spiritual practice to remain calm in these situations. I’ve noticed that being tired gets me into a more disgruntled state of mind, so I’ve been trying to take little breaks. I do wonder if I could make a big transformation without the chaos too! 🙂

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