Saying Goodbye to Sacred Space

We planted this pine tree when my oldest son Alex was a toddler, and the tree was shorter than he was. Now, the tree seems about 20 feet tall. A green friend that we’ll miss when we move.

We now have the closing date for our new house, and assuming all goes well, we will be living in our new home in early September.

The choice to move was a difficult one.

For a long while, I had the idea that my kids would only live in one home during their childhoods and I didn’t want to let go of this place.

There came a point earlier this year when I realized that a move was necessary for our family. Then a period of searching for a new sacred space, making an offer and waiting ensued.

Right now, we’re at the stage of remembering the great memories we had in this house.  My oldest son Alex and I have lived in this location for almost 14 years, and my youngest son has lived here all ten years of his life.  My kids are feeling this change more keenly than me because this is their first real move from home.

Fortunately, we’re only moving a few blocks over from here to a nicer house that will also accommodate my mother’s needs when she visits us.  We were blessed to find it.

I’ve always appreciated the sacredness of space, so I’ve been working on creating some rituals for a few months so that we can say goodbye to a space that was sacred to us for many years, and prepare this house for new owners who I hope will love this place as much as we did.

Tomorrow, I’ll share one of those ways of honoring this space and bringing the love into our new home.

Daily contemplation:

Do you have any rituals or ways you say goodbye to a space or place that has meant a great deal to you in your life?

10 thoughts on “Saying Goodbye to Sacred Space

  1. heavenhappens says:

    I cleaned every inch of my last home before moving and left it looking so beautiful as I wanted the new owners to be happy when they moved in. I had lived there for 25 years and brought up my 4 children there as a single parent so it holds a very special place in my heart. My children are all now adult and have flown the nest so it was only me and my second husband that I had to consider. Our new, tiny, bungalow feels like it was just for us now although I miss the space, colour and garden of my last home.
    I think your approach is wonderful and you and your children will be very happy once you settle in to your new home.

    • Karen Wan says:

      Thank you. There is something powerful for us when we do our best to leave a space beautiful for someone else.
      I honor your ability to raise 4 children as a single parent. I only have two children, and fortunately my relationship with my ex-husband is a good one, so my parental life is probably not nearly as tough as yours must have been, although there were years that it was quite grueling for me.
      My children are very wise and have been telling me that they will miss the memories we shared in this house. I’ve been trying to help them honor the sadness of saying goodbye and take all the good energy of the many years we’ve lived here into our new place.
      I admire the way you brought the energy of beauty and love from your previous home into your new bungalow and enjoy the right space for you now. You are gifted at creating enchanting homes that suit the different times in your life.
      Thanks so much for sharing your experiences!

  2. Three Well Beings says:

    No, I don’t really have any rituals that come close, but I must say I’m touched to hear you speak of them. I think that’s such a wonderful approach, particularly in helping children make this transition. I know you’ll make the new home sacred space, too, and I’m eager to learn more as you share. I truly wish you all the best for what you’ll find in your new home. It would be lovely to have space for your mom. Debra

  3. Literary Tiger says:

    Moving can be both exciting and bittersweet. When I was growing up, we moved a lot. Then, I moved to college, then post grad school and then moved into a house of my own. It liked some of the places we have moved to. But I have always hated the process of moving. It’s a lot of work!

    • Karen Wan says:

      We moved a few times when I was young, and I disliked moving so much then that I’ve tried to stay in one general place for my kids’ sake. Yet, when I was an adult, I rather liked moving around. But I had a lot less stuff then. I’m definitely not looking forward to all the work of this move! 🙂

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