I decided this week’s theme is about how do we leave a legacy with our writing, our art and our life.
Today, I want to start with a simple writing idea.
Before my first son was born, I got the idea to write a secret journal that I would give to him sometime in his teenage years. The journal would contain quotes from me and his father and his grandparents. Then over the years, it would contain the wisdom that I have acquired for living a good life as well as expressions of how proud I have been of him throughout his childhood.
It’s been a while since July of 1998 when I started the first journal when I was pregnant with my first son. Now about 14 years later, I have two journals — one for each of my sons. I’ve been sporadic about adding material to them. Life gets in the way. I was reminded of this journal today as I shot a video of our house and garden as a reminder of their early life for my boys to add a video component to my “secret writings”.
It’s easy to forget how short life is. We think it will go on and on forever. We worry about the daily challenges of life — making a living, getting a promotion, buying a new car, getting our kids into the “right” schools, saving for retirement and so many other transitory concerns. We get annoyed with our kids for stupid things they do, or ourselves for being less than the person we wanted to be.
My inspiration for writing journals for my children is my mother. She has always been a great letter writer. I have a chest full of letters and keepsakes from her. My mom also taught me how to ask deep questions about life from the time I was little.
Unfortunately, I have very little from my father in the way of written expressions of love or wisdom shared, and I can only remember vaguely the things he shared with me. I have photos but they aren’t as powerful as written words when it comes to sharing wisdom. He wasn’t a talkative man either, so I sometimes wonder what mattered to him in life. I still miss his presence in my life, four years after his passing. It made me cry to see what he had written in my son’s journal back in 1998. I am so glad that I asked him to write something when he still could.
There’s no guarantee my kids will appreciate their wisdom journals from me. I just hope they will know that I cared enough to think often about their future happiness as well as my own. I want them to know that I will always be wishing them the best for them from wherever my spirit takes me.
If you have kids, it doesn’t matter how old they are, or even if they’ve moved out of the house. Think about sharing your love and wisdom with them in a journal or video. For there will be a time when you won’t be around to show how much you care.
- Wisdom Seeking (peopleskillsblog.wordpress.com)
- Parent Bloggers: Do More Than Write Your Love (blogher.com)
- 3 ways to wisdom (peopleskillsblog.wordpress.com)
- Journal of Memories (nancylefko.blogspot.com)
- Dear new mom, mom-to-be, hobbyist, or basically any other a person: Start a Blog (bitofmomsense.com)