Yesterday, I sent out my first query to an agent to begin the process of getting representation for my first novel. It took me five hours to write a one page letter asking someone to read my novel, after searching online all weekend for the best person to send my precious baby sci-fi novel.
Yet it was worth the time I spent, no matter what the response. I was surprised to see that I had spent five hours on the letter because it felt like just a few minutes had elapsed. To my surprise, writing that query letter was a flow experience. It was something I didn’t want to do, but it turned out to be an artistic experience as well.
Writing a query letter forced me to look at my book objectively asking myself important questions in a deeper way — how is this book constructed, and what story am I really telling? When you finish a book, you think you know those answers, but sometimes you don’t. I’m not sure the query letter will create a magical response, but it motivated me to look at my novel with new eyes.
For me, there as an art to even the most mundane activities when we are following the destiny of our heart and soul. In addition to writing a series of science fiction novels, I continue to work as a transformational coach, and that is where I see destiny and art dancing an amazing whirling waltz.
From my own perspective, there is something very transformational about creative pursuits. Writing a book is transformational, but especially the kinds I’m writing. After three years of head knocking against table, writing draft upon draft, not knowing what I was doing writing, I feel that I finally understand what I’m here to write both for fictional stories and transformational books. There is something deeply soulful about this process of finding your voice.
This morning, I started work on my next journal book called the Art of Destiny. The goal of all my journal books is to help people ask the right questions to help them move towards their goals. I’ve also found it’s equally or maybe even more important to avoid the wrong questions.
When we set about to do anything that is truly worthwhile with our life, whether it is writing a book, creating a business, getting married, having children or doing anything generative, unhelpful questions have a way of barraging us:
- How dare I do this?
- If this is my gift, why is it so hard to develop my gift?
- When does ______ start to feel good?
- Will this ever be finished?
- Should I be doing something else more practical with my time?
- Couldn’t I be spending time with my family, lover, cockatoo, or hairdresser rather than doing this?
- How do I know when this is done?
Something in us longs to do the Great Work, but we can get stymied by these questions. Most of them have to do with comparing our experience with what we think is supposed to be happening, or the immediate result of bliss we feel should be present.
Tomorrow, I’m going to share some of the better questions that help us finish our novels and books, marry the love of our life, create a world-changing business, buy that pet chinchilla you have always longed for, or anything that matters to you.
For today, try an experiment.
- Stop comparing your experience to what you think it should be.
- See if you can notice a flow, even in the mundane activities, you think you would rather not do.
- Smile if you’re still alive at the end of the day.
Noticing our unique flow through life is part of the art of living our best destiny. And being grateful makes us much more fun to be around.