The Wisdom of SpongeBob SquarePants

SpongeBob SquarePants (character)

SpongeBob SquarePants (character) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It’s funny how life gives us mirrors and stories when we need them.

I was trying to think about how to convey the message of today’s blog in a refreshing way:

Surround Yourself with People Who Respect You for the Right Reason

Most of us, know that the company we keep in life, work and relationships makes a difference in how successful we can be in attaining our goals.

As I was writing this, my sons were watching an episode of SpongeBob SquarePants where Mr. Crabs’ daughter, Pearl, comes to work.  Pearl sets about changing everything at the Crusty Crab in incredibly goofy ways that are costing stingy Mr. Crabs more and more money.

Finally, things are so bad, Mr. Crabs tells SpongeBob that he has to fire Pearl.  Just as SpongeBob is about to fire her, she starts crying, and says I can’t take it anymore, because nothing is working. SpongeBob tries to console her for doing her best.  She’s no, I’ve been doing my best to get fired from this job and it’s not working!

Most of us know when we are in a situation that is not the best one for us or the other people involved in the situation.  It’s worst when we think that by standing up for ourselves, we are going to have to hurt someone we love.

As SpongeBob SquarePants showed today, if there is one area, where we should be wary of flowing with everything around us, it’s in the area of our closest relationships and who we choose to do our life’s work with.

If there is an area in your life that isn’t moving in the direction you would like, take a look at your relationships in that area.  Are you trying to please someone in a way that doesn’t help anyone?

There may be some area in your life where you have to let yourself be fired or fire someone else who is not working with you for the right reason.

Do Others Discover Themselves Through Your Words?

The Perfume Maker, by Rodolphe Ernst

The Perfume Maker, by Rodolphe Ernst (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the spirit of this week’s focus on attraction, I’d like to share a story from my work with a socially responsible business owner.

Today I was working with an amazingly talented client who is a perfumer.  We’ve been working on expanding what I call his sustaining story.   As part of that work with me, he is collecting testimonials from people who have used his hand-made custom perfumes since he began selling them in 1998.  I have been so impressed with the many letters he has received.

This is an excerpt from one of my favorites that he shared with me today:

I believe I discovered your fragrance in San Francisco. . . I have been using it ever since. 

People say it smells like me : )

I cannot smell it on me anymore, I’m so used to it but everyone I know, knows it’s me.

I was at a party a few months back and an old friend of mine who I had not seen in years, said he knew I was there because he could smell me… so he sought me out to say hello, and I was in fact there! 

I often wonder what I will do if you and your perfume ever go away. I don’t ever want to be without it.  It’s become a part of me.

Thanks so much! You are quite simply brilliant.

Perfume urn in the Caron shop in Paris, France.

Perfume urn in the Caron shop in Paris, France. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

He has many more letters like this from the people he says naturally appreciate what he creates.  One of his clients swears the scent attracted his future wife to him.  Another client smelled one of his perfumes on a passerby in Paris and followed the women until she told her how to get the perfume.

My impression is that his inspired fragrances help people to become and see more of themselves.

That’s the same effect that great writing has too.

It’s almost as if we wear the words of a great writer on our soul.

Aren’t there certain lines from poems, quotes and certain imaginary vistas that feel like they are ours as much as the author who wrote them?

Have you ever had the experience of someone finding themselves through the words you have written?

I have a strong intuition that your words just may be a perfume or elixir for the soul for your readers, regardless of whether you ever know it or not!

Does Your Bucket List Motivate You?

Today, I was watching and listening to a motivational video talking about the importance of making a list of the things we want to accomplish in life and realized that I had stopped believing in the importance of what are now called bucket lists.

The reason I stopped caring about these type of lists is that I had accomplished so many of the things on my list, and they hadn’t brought the kind of nirvana that I expected.  In fact, I still feel like I’m muddling through life like the vast majority of people, despite achieving goals that I had once thought impossible.

As I’ve aged, the most precious commodity to me has become time.  I realize that there is less and less of it left in my life.  For me, I don’t want to run around chasing elusive goals just to be able to check off yet another To Do list.

In fact, there has been one major goal on my bucket list for the last four years, which has been to slow down my life and be present for all of life’s little moments with my kids.

I also looked at a magnet on my refrigerator — We Plan — God Laughs.

Yet, for all my skepticism about bucket lists, without having written what I call a dream scene about twenty years ago, I probably wouldn’t be spending my time watching my two boys grow in to men or writing stories and blogs with my two dogs as companions or enjoying the honor of coaching socially conscious entrepreneurs. Writing down my longings in lists and journals had an effect on my choices.

As I thought how the boys will be leaving home in a few years, and my dogs unfortunately won’t live forever, nor will many of the older people who are so important in my life now, it became clear maybe it’s time for a new bucket list.

I never thought much about what I’d do after I reached the age that I am now.  When you’re young life seems to go on forever. Knowing what I do now . . . that the achievement of my dreams is not a static thing, but an ever-changing evolution,  I’m ready to start dreaming about my journey for ten and twenty years from now.

I’m also looking back at the dreams of my younger years when I was 15, 21, 25, 35, and 40.   I’m grateful for that young and naive self for having dreams and desires and taking the risks to make them come true, even when I completely failed to reach some of them.

Here are a few questions for your contemplation today:

  1. Do you have any goals that are motivating you now?
  2. Is is time to add some new ones to your list?
  3. How are you now living a once longed for dream that you might be taking for granted?

Here’s to the wonder of all the ways in which we create our destiny.  Even something as simple as writing a list of all the goals, relationships and adventures we want in life.  It is actually possible to write and sketch out our destiny.